You, your child, and other family members should get in the habit of using "please" and "thank you" in everyday conversation. Encourage your child to say it in full. It's hard to whine in complete sentences; no one can keep up that annoying drone. Forming sentences is also a good way for your child to tell you what he needs and get results, as in, "Mom, I'm tired, and I don't want to shop anymore.
Can we go? Try using brief "contracts" to make plans or settle disagreements. Suppose your child wants to go rollerskating; you said you'd take him to the park on Saturday, but by Wednesday he's already pleading to set off. Write out a one-sentence agreement on when and where you'll go, and add that any further pestering from him will nullify the contract.
Make sure you follow through, or this won't work. Avoid edicts, and find solutions. Say your child wants an expensive new computer game. You said no; now he's whining. What should you do? Allow your child to buy the game -- with his allowance. If that won't cover it, offer to pay him for doing a few extra chores around the house. Encourage your child to find constructive ways to reach his goals. Why is my child whining? Should I ignore my child's whining?
When should I seek professional help? References Frances L. Nearly , U. His Daughter's Coaches Saved Him. You can say, 'Wow, what a lovely way to ask. That sounded so nice,' " says Dr. Even if you refuse his request "We are going to save our appetite for dinner and skip the cookie now" , pointing out how well he used his good voice will make him less likely to resort to whining next time.
You'll be relieved you've silenced the din, and he'll have learned how to make himself heard. Four Ways to Deal with Whining Children. By Caroline Schaefer June 11, Save Pin FB More. Credit: Heather Weston. Originally published in the January issue of Parents magazine. Parents Magazine.
By Caroline Schaefer. Be the first to comment! No comments yet. Close this dialog window Add a comment. Add your comment Cancel Submit. Close this dialog window Review for. Back to story Comment on this project. Tell us what you think When kids whine and parents give in, kids realize that whining gets them what they want—the attention they crave and maybe even that candy bar in the grocery checkout line.
Stop whining! Now that you know why kids whine, you can make it stop—before your ears fall off. Here are 3 steps you can start using today to curb the whining in your home:. Remember the main reason why your kids whine? It works!
If you ask me something in a whiny voice, I will put my hands over my ears which will be a gentle reminder to use your regular voice. NOTE: You may have to do some role-playing about the difference between a normal voice and a whiny voice. Stay calm and walk away — even a negative non-verbal reaction to whining can be a payoff. Each parent should shoot for 10 minutes of quality time every day with each child. You can play their favorite card game, shoot hoops in the driveway or whatever they love to do!
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